Prison Doula- So worth it

 

For 7 years I have had the privilege of volunteering as an inspirational dance teacher in Vanier Correctional Center for Women in Milton. It has been both challenging and rewarding to dance alongside these women. I have grown in ways that I never thought possible. Two and a half years ago I made a transition to join the Vanier Doula program and help pregnant women that are incarcerated to navigate the system through pregnancy, labor and delivery. This has exposed me to even more challenging experiences but the benefits for these women have been “so worth it“.   Being the free spirit that I am along with my passion for justice and unconventional thinking, I struggle with working within institutions that have system breakdown. I have navigated my way through various institutions and have even chosen to accomplish my goals outside of the normal rules and regulations that hinder progress. I have done this because at my core beliefs I believe that the end result could possibly be worth all the sacrifice of the struggle.

Our program has seen a total of 110 pregnant women from 2014-2017.   We have assisted as Doulas for 14 Births.   We do weekly visit of an average of  4-9 pregnant women. We have assisted with mothers dealing with  Children`s Aid Society, abuse, adoption, substance usage, high risk pregnancy, miscarriage, termination, twins and fatal outcome. Due to the circumstances surrounding the pregnancies I encounter I have been trained as a Doula specialist in bereavement, loss, survivors of sexual abuse,termination and adoption.

I can still say that after all of these weekly encounters, the frustration I sometimes feel with the system breakdown and  failure, the pain I vicariously experience through the re- traumatization each women deals with, I still believe that it is so worth it.

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Supernaturally Blessed Womb

Unborn Baby

I have had many questions from women who have felt that they thought they were in the early stages of pregnancy, but the doctor report or pregnancy test said otherwise. They soon afterwards began to spot or cramp and experienced what seemed like early symptoms of  a miscarriage. This experience can leave  some women with feelings of uncertainty and concern.

I often share my testimony where 3 of my 5 children were false negative tests and were not confirmed positive until almost 3 months pregnant, yet knowing my body I knew that I was experiencing pregnancy symptoms and acted accordingly. Faith was required for something I could not see.

Sometimes in the event of a negative pregnancy test, it does not always mean that you are not pregnant, merely that there was not a high enough concentration of HCG found to register as positive. That means a test in two days might produce a different result, or even the same result and yet you may still be pregnant.

In Birthing Supernaturally I share how my faith in God, myself and my body and not in the symptoms, reports or doctors negative comments helped me to Believe, Receive and Conceive.

I also have lost an infant to miscarriage so I understand what that is like as well and have listed a few things you can do if you find yourself in either of these situations. (please note each person deals with loss differently and in very unique timing)

  1. Pray with someone to remove any negative fear, doubt, guilt or unbelief that may have come in when you suspected you were pregnant or miscarrying, whether through the mother or the father or other family members.
  2. Reject any negative words, proclamations or reports that you were given from doctors, nurses, midwives, spouse etc… ( Bless them, just reject the power of their words over you as a professional)
  3. When you are ready bless your womb to remain supernaturally fertile and able to continue to bear fruit in the right season.
  4. Release and bless any (maybe baby) that may or may not have been in your womb back to God. This act of letting go to God is very powerful, even with the uncertainty of not knowing for sure. Many women call these baby angels.
  5. Forgive yourself of any negative thoughts, feelings, emotions or actions that may have occurred during this process. (Give yourself Grace in the process)
  6. Renew your mind with positive words and scripture that declare the blessings of God towards you and your family.
  7. Close any doorways that may hinder your ability to receive your future promises from God. Example-  setting your own agenda and timing for having children or not treating your body like a precious vessel.

I also recommend that you wait and see. Now please don`t worry and see, but wait on God and see. Time usually reveals truth.

If  this is not the case and you believe you may have experienced an early stage miscarriage we encourage you to go through the process of telling your story and even following some of the healing exercises for those that experience perinatal loss.

Acknowledge to yourself that those feelings and emotions are real even though you are not sure and can`t prove it. We  support you through this process.

 

The Giving Tree Services

The Giving Tree Services

The Giving Tree Services

Based on the book by Shel Silverstein, The Giving Tree Services is about the beautiful nature of giving of the natural resources that are at our disposal for love, health, wellness and happiness.  We believe in the Tree of Life offering us better choices and better ways to live. Our services are for any and everyone that is seeking a natural, safe and proven solution to overall well being.

We offer a variety of services

Birthing Supernaturally Doula

Bereavement and Perinatal loss Doula

Doula Dance  Movement specialist

Spiritual massage therapist

Inner Healing facilitator

Essential Oil Wellness Advocate

UR Designed Identity Life coach